April 04, 2006
All I can say is there are two sides to every story and basically this is a business matter between she and I. There are several things MY Mama taught me:
1. If you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all. Try to be professional and take the high road, which is what I like to do. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. If someone wants to give you something (like payment), take it, keep quiet and move on.
2. If you worry about keeping your own porch clean, you won't have time to worry about what the other person is doing.
In other words, mind your own business. Just because I choose to not air my dirty laundry to the world does not mean I am wrong. In all things, it is best to be circumspect. If you choose to defame someone, just make sure you are telling the truth.
She would already have her money if she had simply called me and discussed the matter like a rational adult without screaming. No one pays $30 to stop payment on a check without good reason. If I had no intention of paying her, I never would have handed her a check in the first place.
One last thing, my Mama taught me that it never hurts to be nice to people and it doesn't cost you anything.
My Comment / Response
April 4, 2006
What exactly WAS the problem with the class? You keep saying, 'There are two sides...' but what on earth is justification for canceling a check?
I've heard from several folks who were in the class that they really enjoyed themselves, learned a lot, and are pretty upset that you haven't paid me. (Paying me, then taking the money back, does NOT count as payment.)
You wrote in your blog post: "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. If someone wants to give you something (like payment), take it, keep quiet and move on."
I don't understand how you can call yourself a gift horse. You weren't giving me a gift, you were paying me, fulfilling your obligation according to our contract (which I have, signed by you). At this point I'm the 'gift horse' if you want to look at it that way - you made off with 3 hours of my teaching for nothing, and gained quite a bit financially from it. How can you square that with your conscious? Have you refunded the $50 that each person paid you?
As far as keeping quiet - I only called you AFTER you'd canceled payment (and incidentally, I didn't yell at you - but if you want folks to think that, fine. I certainly had every right to yell.)
After you gave me the check, you did not email me, call me, or give me any indication of what "the problem" was. You simply stopped payment on the check. How in the world would I know there WAS a problem if you didn't call or email to to tell me?
The first indication I had of any unhappiness on your part was when the bank notified me that payment was stopped on the check. I haven't mentioned your name on my blog, but I will be happy to.